Being 40 is not the end of the world. But being 40 and not married now that is something to think about. Question, Where are the men that value a good woman and are ready for a good relationship. Well to me they are not in the city. I believe they are out there and living in the country where the men out in the country are taught and are shown good morals. Funny but why do we have to leave where we come from to find love?
Not to long ago I was watching the movie "Phat Girlz" starting Mo'nique, and I was wondering why did she have to find love with a foreign man. Now it was not because she was a little to big because really weight has nothing to do with love, but its a shame that women like us over 40 can not find a good man in our own neighborhood. The movie was good at least I thought it was and I was happy that she found her man.
Well I came to a conclusion that it is not us its the men. All of my friends are married or are in a long term relationship. I just decided that I was not put into this earth to be someone's wife. I know in my heart that I am a very good woman and I know I can be an excellent wife, but throughout my years it is the men that do not appreciate what is in front of them. I am pretty sure there are a million and one women that would agree with what i just wrote. My thing is that we women have to first sit down and think about our priorities. We have to make sure that when a man is presented in front of us to just be ourselves and explain in little word what we want, and if we get phone calls then there is interest but to what extend.
One of my girlfriends always says, "Bee marriage is not what its cut out to be" you know what I would really like to say is so then why are you there but i do not because that is my girl and I feel what she is telling me. Well I went into this website :http://http//www.cbsnews.com/stories/2006/05/31/earlyshow/main1671139.shtml and there was an article that they did an interview 30 yrs ago and 30 yrs later spoke to the same women, these women are married, this was one of the postings in the article,
"More women were at work, more women were getting college educations. More women were able to be financially independent and it was like predicting the future based on the past when all women got married by 20." Now i feel that is true but another question that points out is, what is wrong with a strong hard working woman? Sometimes a man does get intinidating by a hard working woman but that does not mean that they have a right to treat us like crap.
This is another website I went on, its by Veronica;
http://http//hubpages.com/hub/Pressured_Into_Getting_Married_Are_You_Really_Ready
She gives good advise to a guy that feels pressured by his girlfriend about getting married. Listen at my age i dont believe in some man telling me that he is pressued to me that is just another excuse for him to call it quits, that is my opinion. Overall this is something to think about and I believe I will get alot of different opinions and you are welcomed so lets help shed some light to this situation that we are in.
